Love..whatislove?AlotofpeoplesharedtheirviewstowhatLovereallyis,oratleastwhatLoveisintheireyes.Perhapsloveisjustanillusion.Astrongillusion,especiallyforthosewhoaresearchingforapurposeoflife.Isloveananswer?Lovecanbewonderful,special,complicated,adistress,agift,acurse,atragedy,andmostofall,anexperience.

Loveisamysteriousandacomplicatedforce.Whatdoapersonmeanwhentheysaytheylovesomeone?Loveismanydifferentthings.EachofushaveourownunderstandingofLoveis,andmostofthetimewebaseourdefinitionsfromfeelingsandexperiences.Thebookdefinesloveinmanyways."Itisastrongaffectionforanotherarisingoutofkinshiporpersonalties."Itcanbeanaffectionandtendernessfeltbylovers.Loveistheobjectofattachment,devotion,oradmiration.

Justwhenwethoughtwefinallygraspwhatloveis,somebodyasks:

"Doesanyonereallyknowwhat'LOVE'mean?IbelieveIhaveatruelove,but'Truelove'isalwayshurt,isn'tit?"

Iscratchesmyheadwiththisthoughtandbegantowonder.Whatistheanswertothis?"ThisIhavetoknow!"Isaidtomyself.Ilookedinthemirrorandasked"Isitatruelovewhenyouknowyouwanttolivewiththisspecialpersonfortherestofyourlife?Havewereached'truelove'whenwearereadytogiveeverythingawaytowardsoursubject?Ormaybewhencangoasfarastosacrificeourselvesforourlove?Whataboutloveasanobsession?Isthatpossible?

"Butisn'tlovesupposetobeanobsession?Ifitisnot,thenyou'dhavetorationalize.Ifyourationalizethenit'snotlove,becausethereisalwaysabetterrationalization."

"Ithinkthe"inlove"phaseisobsessivebutaccordingtoWilliamson(andbackedupbymypaltryexperience),lovedoesnotinvolvetheego,isselflessandtheoppositeofobsession."

AccordingtoMarrianeWilliamson,theauthorof"AReturntoLove,"thereisa"holylove"anda"speciallove.""Thelattertypeistheobsessiveone;findingthatone'special'personabsorbs_ALL_yourattention."

Sowhoisrightandwhoiswrongaboutlove?Thereisnowronganswer.Loveismanywonderfulthings.Lovemaynotworkoutallthetimebutitleavesyouaspecialsortoffeeling,likenothingyouhaveeverimagined.Isloveapurposeoflife?Ithinkarelifewillbedullwithoutit.Butisitnecessary?Important?Itisapartoflife,andforeveritwillbeapartofus.

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"Loveisnotthinkingaboutyourhappinessbutmakingothershappy."-anonymous

"OurheartsarecreatedtoLove."-E.Atienza

"Loveislikearollercoaster,ithasupsanddowns."

"Lovedoesn'tmaketheworldgoaround,Lovemakestherideworthwhile."-unknown

"MoneywillbuyyousexbutnotLove."-SimonVainrub

"Themoreyoucryforthepersonyoureallylove,themoreyoucanunderstandreallove."-TsuchidaTomomi

Love..whatislove?AlotofpeoplesharedtheirviewstowhatLovereallyis,oratleastwhatLoveisintheireyes.Perhapsloveisjustanillusion.Astrongillusion,especiallyforthosewhoaresearchingforapurposeoflife.Isloveananswer?Lovecanbewonderful,special,complicated,adistress,agift,acurse,atragedy,andmostofall,anexperience.

Loveisamysteriousandacomplicatedforce.Whatdoapersonmeanwhentheysaytheylovesomeone?Loveismanydifferentthings.EachofushaveourownunderstandingofLoveis,andmostofthetimewebaseourdefinitionsfromfeelingsandexperiences.Thebookdefinesloveinmanyways."Itisastrongaffectionforanotherarisingoutofkinshiporpersonalties."Itcanbeanaffectionandtendernessfeltbylovers.Loveistheobjectofattachment,devotion,oradmiration.

Justwhenwethoughtwefinallygraspwhatloveis,somebodyasks:

"Doesanyonereallyknowwhat'LOVE'mean?IbelieveIhaveatruelove,but'Truelove'isalwayshurt,isn'tit?"

Iscratchesmyheadwiththisthoughtandbegantowonder.Whatistheanswertothis?"ThisIhavetoknow!"Isaidtomyself.Ilookedinthemirrorandasked"Isitatruelovewhenyouknowyouwanttolivewiththisspecialpersonfortherestofyourlife?Havewereached'truelove'whenwearereadytogiveeverythingawaytowardsoursubject?Ormaybewhencangoasfarastosacrificeourselvesforourlove?Whataboutloveasanobsession?Isthatpossible?

"Butisn'tlovesupposetobeanobsession?Ifitisnot,thenyou'dhavetorationalize.Ifyourationalizethenit'snotlove,becausethereisalwaysabetterrationalization."

"Ithinkthe"inlove"phaseisobsessivebutaccordingtoWilliamson(andbackedupbymypaltryexperience),lovedoesnotinvolvetheego,isselflessandtheoppositeofobsession."

AccordingtoMarrianeWilliamson,theauthorof"AReturntoLove,"thereisa"holylove"anda"speciallove.""Thelattertypeistheobsessiveone;findingthatone'special'personabsorbs_ALL_yourattention."

Sowhoisrightandwhoiswrongaboutlove?Thereisnowronganswer.Loveismanywonderfulthings.Lovemaynotworkoutallthetimebutitleavesyouaspecialsortoffeeling,likenothingyouhaveeverimagined.Isloveapurposeoflife?Ithinkarelifewillbedullwithoutit.Butisitnecessary?Important?Itisapartoflife,andforeveritwillbeapartofus.

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"Loveisnotthinkingaboutyourhappinessbutmakingothershappy."-anonymous

"OurheartsarecreatedtoLove."-E.Atienza

"Loveislikearollercoaster,ithasupsanddowns."

"Lovedoesn'tmaketheworldgoaround,Lovemakestherideworthwhile."-unknown

"MoneywillbuyyousexbutnotLove."-SimonVainrub

"Themoreyoucryforthepersonyoureallylove,themoreyoucanunderstandreallove."-TsuchidaTomomi